Fwd: [bmdc-wg] BMDC Meeting Sunday 6/18 6:30pm

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From: Heidi Olson <holson3@outlook.com>
Date: Sat, Jun 17, 2023 at 11:47 AM
Subject: Re: [bmdc-wg] BMDC Meeting Sunday 6/18 6:30pm
To: Lita Xú Líng Kelley <xulingkelley@gmail.com>, dmkeil@gmail.com <dmkeil@gmail.com>
Cc: DAVID KEIL <bmdc@lists.riseup.net>

Thank you for clarifying that.  While it is important we discuss, respect and hear from transgender women & transgender rights, we should not silence or step on cis women in the process.  Cis women are also oppressed!  No matter what race, women in general have historically been and continue to be opposed that is very apparent with the attacks on women's rights and with the silencing of women's voices.  We need to respect and listen to ALL women, cis and transgender!  Declaring a cis woman's views, if they conflict with transgender women's views as transphobic, is using the word transphobic as a weapon to silence cis women!  Let's find away to come together please.

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From: Lita Xú Líng Kelley <xulingkelley@gmail.com>
Sent: Saturday, June 17, 2023 11:32 AM
To: dmkeil@gmail.com <dmkeil@gmail.com>
Cc: Heidi Olson <holson3@outlook.com>; DAVID KEIL <bmdc@lists.riseup.net>
Subject: Re: [bmdc-wg] BMDC Meeting Sunday 6/18 6:30pm

 

I'm going to clarify.  We discussed it, trying to determine how to word it, and while she agreed that the issues should be discussed I was under pressure to get out the meeting notification.  For the record, Sussen, this morning objected to me using the term transphobic.

On Sat, Jun 17, 2023 at 9:12 AM Lita Xú Líng Kelley <xulingkelley@gmail.com> wrote:

Once again David with his manipulative and fabricated nonsense in his attempts to silence trans voices.  Sussen and I spoke twice, and it was agreed that we will discuss this.

On Sat, Jun 17, 2023 at 8:53 AM DAVID KEIL <bmdc@lists.riseup.net> wrote:

Yes, this is under Mike's name but sent by Lita. Sussen and Lita are the interim committee. John told me the other day that Sussen doesn't go with Lita's expulsion plan. So Mike and Lita are bypassing a woman committee member and letting Mike speak for what he calls "our" agenda. It is a power grab.

On Sat, Jun 17, 2023 at 7:23 AM Heidi Olson <holson3@outlook.com> wrote:

Who is on interim committee this week?  My emails don't go as far back to last Sunday notes due to me changing emails.  It looks like Lita and Mike sent this???  

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From: bmdc-request@lists.riseup.net <bmdc-request@lists.riseup.net> on behalf of DAVID KEIL <bmdc@lists.riseup.net>
Sent: Friday, June 16, 2023 11:22 PM
To: BMDC Working Group <bmdc@lists.riseup.net>
Subject: Re: [bmdc-wg] BMDC Meeting Sunday 6/18 6:30pm

 

Agenda proposals come from the Interim Committee. This proposal appears to be by two members, not by the Interim Committee. It also appears to pre-determine a verdict on a matter under discussion in BMDC. 

On Fri, Jun 16, 2023 at 9:44 PM Lita Xú Líng Kelley <bmdc@lists.riseup.net> wrote:

Boston May Day Coalition BMDC – Mtg 6/18/2023, Sunday, 6:30

Please attend our next meeting.

Below is our proposed agenda.

Thanks,

Mike

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/85907977991?pwd=YnBPbFFwcStueE

1. Hello
   
2. Facilitator and Notetaker, Agenda Review
   
3. Read Agreements for Multicultural Interactions 
4. Transphobic Attacks on Our Lists
   
5. July 4 Anti-Imperialist Picnic
   
6. Ongoing Campaigns
   
7. International Solidarity Series
   
8. Other Report-backs, Upcoming Events
9. Interim Committee for This Week
   

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Agreements for Multicultural Interactions

TRY IT ON:

Be willing to "try on" new ideas or ways of doing things that might not be what you prefer or are familiar with.

PRACTICE SELF FOCUS:

We attend to and speak about our own experiences and responses. Do not speak for a whole group or express

assumptions about the experiences of others. We do not assume the race, class, gender, sexuality, or ability of

anyone else. We have the individual option to share pronouns, and we will collectively respect pronouns.

ACKNOWLEDGE INTENT VS. IMPACT:

Understand and acknowledge impact of words and actions. Denying the impact of something by focusing on the intent

devalues the other person's experience of the initial interaction. No matter our intentions, we take responsibility for the

impact our actions have on others. Denying our impact by focusing on intent can be more destructive than the initial

interaction.

PRACTICE BOTH/AND:

We substitute "and" for "but" when speaking. This practice acknowledges and honors multiple understandings. This

also supports creating spaciousness around our binary ways.

REFRAIN FROM BLAMING & SHAMING SELF & OTHERS

We practice giving skillful feedback and not performing quality control on another's expressions, or our own,

understanding that powerful emotions can arise as a shout, a stammer, a cry; and that these expressions, too,

deserve space and care.

TAKING SPACE / MAKING SPACE:

We encourage full participation by all present, knowing that courage takes different forms for each of us. Take note of

who is speaking and who is not. If you tend to speak often, consider "tuning in" through mindful listening. If you tend to

rest in silence, consider "making space" by sharing your experience

PRACTICE MINDFUL LISTENING:

Try to avoid planning what you will say as you listen to others. Be willing to be surprised, to learn something new..

Listen with your whole self. We listen to understand, not to respond.

CONFIDENTIALITY:

Take home learnings but don't identify anyone other than yourself, now or later. If you want to follow up with anyone

regarding something they said in this session, ask first and respect their wishes.

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